FATHERLY ROLE

You and I know that in this our environment, there has been a vacuum in the roles fathers must play. Very few men had the fatherhood role rightly and healthily filled. Argue it all you can, but it's an obvious fact around here.

It is only those men who are able to unlearn and relearn that are making a difference. That are becoming our own. Our Men. I join us all to celebrate our Men!

Ok, see this...

This guy is fatherless, not fatherless in the position of a father o, but in the role of proper fathering. He, the guy, is expected to be a father, because he grows up daily and must assume the position at some point. A position which has to be intentionally taught and learnt, revelations that must be caught. But the role was empty, somehow... Guy must keep growing, and make efforts to become "something" in life. In the process of walking that journey, he caught the wrong "revelations", because he found himself gravitating towards fellow "fatherless" ones. He must be a hard guy. He misses and yearns for that role to be filled and played, but he must go on, and be hard. He must not express his emotions, he'll look weak, except that of anger, because that's what makes him look "strong". Instead of knowing and working on his weaknesses, he lies to cover his misdeeds because that makes him look hard, he must be "in control", he cannot be vulnerable.

False representation of manhood. Wrong interpretation of the revelation of manhood.

He grows up and is becoming "something in life" and must take the position of a father. He marries a girl who is becoming "something in life" too, for no man wants a liability as wife nowadays o. They are in love truly. They are friends. Sweet "vibes"...

Then, life begins.. Life starts to happen... He is a man and MUST be respected. But he CANNOT listen to his wife because she MUST submit to him. Hmmm... And he doesn't even know how to "feel" her, because that makes a man weak. Trouble looms. Problem begins, but there is "peace". He sees submission, respect, but the Woman is unhappy, being subservient, only appears like she is "submissive" because she wants approval/validation from her family, friends, society as a "good", "strong" woman.

In another scenario, the Woman, who is also becoming "something in life", mentions to the man the effect of his ineptitude, or oversights, they are friends, the way they talk to themselves normally o, but he sees it as confrontation because she didn't "kneel down" to say it, she said it nicely, but she didn't apply "respect", because somewhere in his mind, he's programmed to believe a woman must not have opinion about him, the lord of the household! Wrong interpretation of manhood...

She must be fine with anything he does, and be a good wife at all cost, even when he is wrong, "praying away the hurt snd pain", ignoring the fact that she is human, has emotions, and is becoming "something in life" too - he caught the wrong revelations...

He tries to bully her into silence. He ignores her. He refuses to "eat her food". He must be "hard"!

She keeps talking, for these issues are fundamental, and the times have changed. He lies, he cheats, has betrayed her trust many times, because it's okay for a man to do all that, as he is a Man!

These need to be addressed, because, COMMUNICATION is key. He calls her a nagging wife, to shame her into silence, because that appellation has become the nomenclature of Women who talk too much when they feel ignored and unable to reach their husbands. No woman wants to be called that... And he started beating her, to shut her up, to show his power over her. She speaks out about it, don't forget this other woman is also becoming "something in life" and not a "liability", so cannot be bullied into silence, she talks! So she spoke out about it. He becomes embarrassed instead of being remorseful - because a man cannot feel remorse for treating a woman badly, he must always be in control! The story continues...

All because of the revelation of manhood he caught from a fatherless world! He is a good guy actually. A wonderful soul. He wants to be a happy and fulfilled family man. But he "caught revelations" that are unhealthy, and interpretes it so.

He MUST wake up to that truth and fix himself...

Is this not the story of many marriages? Is this not part of why marriages are breaking?

Please don't misunderstand me, I am not saying the Woman is always perfect and doesn't have her own faults, she does, but you and I know that in this our environment, there has been a lot of error in the raising of boys...

And we are reacting to it with wrong interpretation of feminism...

😎😎
Sola Allyson